Are We a Two-Kid Family?
*This is not a pregnancy announcement in any way. I apologize if the post title is misleading...I couldn't think of another way to word it. Moving on...
You may remember that I've always thought it would be cool to have four kids. I've thought about it a lot. And lately I've been trying to be more realistic, now that I know what it's like to have a baby, and taking my personality into account.
A few weeks ago Roo and I were both sick, and it was really hard. In the midst of it, I told Eric that I think I can maybe only handle two kids. And he said he was thinking the exact same thing (for the record, he's always thought he wanted two).
I'm actually not even sure how people with two kids do it!
Back when I wanted 4, I thought we better start pumping 'em out. You know. I'm going to be 30 this year. But if we're only having two, then I don't need or want to rush into having the second! Which has honestly been a relief for me (not that we're locked into this or can't change our minds).
More Random Thoughts in My Brain
- I think it is very important for kids to have at least one sibling.
- My fear with only two kids is that they wouldn't have enough siblings, and that I wouldn't be ready to be done after two.
- My sister lives fairly close and has three daughters, who we see a couple times a month. I'm anticipating our kids will be close with them and they might be able to stand-in as additional siblings. :)
- If our kids get married, their spouses would be like the two other kids I never had, and when they come home it'd be like having four kids!
- I'm someone who doesn't like to invite chaos into my life, and I think at times I'd be overwhelmed enough with two kids!
- We want to go on family vacations when it's ideal for all the kids' ages.
- With two kids, Eric and I could play man-to-man defense rather than zone (two parents vs. two kids).
- I only have two hands...can I handle more than two kids?
- I've always wanted my kids about three years apart. At that point hopefully Roo will be toilet trained and we can also keep her in the crib for as long as possible without needing it for the next kid.
- I was 28 when I had Roo, so if we only have two kids, three years apart, my last pregnancy will be at age 31 and I'd be 49 when the younger one graduates high school.
- I want to be financially prepared for our kids, and to be able to give them experiences and have everything they need.
- Looking at our budget, we'd only be able to afford two kids, if all things stay the same (income, day care fees, etc.).
- This whole conversation leaves me wondering...is three the magic number? (I grew up as the middle of three and Eric's the younger of two! All three years apart!)
- How do people decide when they're done for good?
Do you have just one sibling? Did you enjoy growing up in a two-kid family? How far apart in age are you? Are you the same sex? What did you like about it? What didn't you like?
P.S. It's all in God's hands, and I shouldn't feel the need to control this. He'll be playing a huge joke on me if I get pregnant with twins.